I normally have pretty good luck with the Law of Attraction. But perhaps the focus on “stress reduction” this month on the blog has caused my stress level to rise a bit.A positive note to that is I have many situations to apply the stress relief advice that is being shared. One stress reduction strategy is to take time to respond to someone when angry.

A website situation had me irate.I was not even aware I was handling the situation successfully until post-conclusion reflection. Let me take you through what happened recently and my response.

I worked with someone who was consulting on parts of my online strategy for awhile. When the work was finished, about a month afterwards I received an email where my former consultant (and household name) was pitching a similar membership plan to the one I have for the Meditation Masters Network. I was irate!

First I felt betrayed.Next I felt my blood boil. I vented to my wife.I sent the email offer to other people and put in my two cents. I needed everyone to agree that I had been screwed, I was in the right, this person was a jerk.

What was not clear at that moment was that I was venting my anger. I feel venting about a situation immediately is a healthy thing to do, you don’t want to keep stress bottled up inside where it could manifest itself in your body somewhere. The important part about venting is the audience you choose. Vent with trusted people that are not part of the reason you are angry in the first place.

Over the next few days of venting, I surveyed my trusted advisors for their reactions. This is not so that someone else can tell me how I have to feel about the situation. But hearing different opinions brings greater perspective on the situation in angles you can’t see, especially when emotionally invested.

Then, I replayed all the events in my mind’s eye from his perspective. Then I performed some additional due diligence on the other site. It turned out it was not a membership concerning meditation, it just had meditation as part of its offerings. Furthermore, the people featured on this site had no overlap with the meditation experts I had gathered other than the person I was agitated with.

A wise person who was my sounding board during my deliberations asked me a pointed question that made everything come together. *What is your desired outcome?” It makes everything so clear to ask that! Because events occur in life, people observe events, then people make judgments on events, that triggers emotions, and then more events occur. I had just observed a situation and judgments were flying!

It is very powerful to decide what you want to happen rather than making constant judgments and then dealing with the emotional ramifications of the judgments you made. Making judgements and having reactions is not conscious living, it is deciding to be a victim of your environment.

I decided I wanted to know the details of this person’s involvement with the other site.If I found out that there was no reason to be so upset, I wanted the teacher to join the Masters Meditation Network.But, if he was directly involved in the competing site, I was going to end our relationship. So I setup a conference call and put it on the table.

It turned out that I got very angry without having the full perspective.My membership site is a common idea, and while I got get a little upset over the email, it was not a big conspiracy. My anger was misdirected and I almost lost a great meditation teacher and business consultant.

I did not get everything I wanted, but I did learn I would’ve been over-reacting if I blew my top over the situation.Instead, a household name in personal development is involved and committed to the Master Meditation Network. By following a plan of delaying my angry response, the Meditation Masters Network is stronger for it and my stress has dissolved.

Office Stress Reduction

1. Feel the anger and don’t try to diminish or rationalize it
2. Vent with those you trust
3.Hear your trusted confidantes feedback and give it consideration
4. Decide what you want out of the situation
5. Go for what you want
6. Accept the outcome and move on

About the Author

Scott Desgrosseilliers is the founder of The Meditation Masters Network.